We present a combined theoretical and experimental study on the effects of different population, orientation, and alignment relaxation rates in resonant four-wave mixing (RFWM). Signal generation in RFWM can be viewed as the formation of and scattering from laser-induced population, orientation, and alignment gratings. We show that the relative contributions from the upper-state and lower-state population, orientation, and alignment gratings to the observed output signal can be changed by varying the polarizations of the three input fields. A theory is developed to account for these changes in collisional environments where the three multipole moments of the total angular momentum distribution, i.e., the population, the orientation, and the alignment, relax unequally. This theory is applied to the OH radical in an atmospheric-pressure H-2/O-2/He flame for which we have measured the line profiles using high-resolution degenerate and nearly degenerate four-wave mixing. We find that orientation and alignment gratings relax more rapidly than population gratings for low rotational levels of OH in the presence of He but at essentially the same rate for high rotational levels. A discussion is presented of the importance of this effect in the interpretation of RFWM experiments.