Knowledge of the forces which a fluid motion exerts on the surface of suspended material is important for many processes in which the particles are broken apart by the hydrodynamic forces, In this paper, we examine the stresses on a small ellipsoidal particle which is immersed in either a constant, simple shear, two-dimensional straining or axisymmetric straining flow. Calculations have been performed using Oberbeck's and Jeffery's models and have been appropriately visualized. Furthermore, the motion and orientation of the ellipsoid have been examined and the extreme values of stresses have been analyzed. A simple criterion for the break-up of particles is proposed. The analysis shows that the straining flows are particular important for the load on particles. In contrast, simple shear flows are less crucial as the presence of vorticity leads to a rotation of the particles.