Femtosecond time-resolved coherent anti-Stokes Raman scattering (fs-CARS) gives access to ultrafast molecular dynamics. However, the gain of the temporal resolution entails a poor spectral resolution due to the inherent spectral width of the femtosecond excitation pulses. Modifications of the phase shape of one of the exciting pulses results in dramatic changes of the mode distribution reflected in coherent anti-Stokes Raman spectra. A feedback-controlled optimization of specific modes making use of phase and/or amplitude modulation of the pump laser pulse is applied to selectively influence the anti-Stokes signal spectrum. The optimization experiments are performed under electronically nonresonant and resonant conditions. The results are compared and the role of electronic resonances is analyzed. It can be clearly demonstrated that these resonances are of importance for a selective excitation by means of phase and amplitude modulation. The mode selective excitation under nonresonant conditions is determined mainly by the variation of the spectral phase of the laser pulse. Here, the modulation of the spectral amplitudes only has little influence on the mode ratios. In contrast to this, the phase as well as amplitude modulation contributes considerably to the control process under resonant conditions. A careful analysis of the experimental results reveals information about the mechanisms of the mode control, which partially involve molecular dynamics in the electronic states.